Connecting With People

In this divisive world, we all desperately want deeper connections with those we love, lead and serve. It begins by setting an intention to create a positive, trusting and encouraging relationship with others. It's about helping others feel seen, heard, understood, cared for, and even empowered. You'll enjoy life more if you enjoy people. You'll get further in life if people enjoy you. Most people can trace their successes and failures to the relationships in their life. Here's what you can do to really enjoy your relationships again and to connect more deeply with others:

1) Demonstrate genuine interest by holding space for them to be authentic and engaged.

2) Encourage sharing by trying to get to people's real thoughts, feelings, needs, desires, struggles, and dreams.

3) Help people brainstorm by helping them find their own answers and generate ideas or options on how to handle situations or problems.

4) Make it a goal to appreciate others and celebrate wins.

A Relationship Survey 

1. Do you feel anxious when a particular person has called and left a message?

2. Have you recently been in a relationship that drains you of energy or enthusiasm?

3. Is it difficult to name three friends with whom you can share your worst sins?

4. Do you sometimes dread having to see a particular person in a social situation?

5. Do you have several relationships in which you give more than you receive?

6. Is it hard for you to put in the effort to maintain a close friendship?

7. Is your creativity blocked from a preoccupation with unhealthy relationships?

8. Do you become more self-critical and uncomfortable in the presence of people?

9. Are you irritable because of unresolved frustrations with people?

10. Do you have imaginary conversations with people, causing internal conflict?

If you answered seven or more 'yes' to the above questions, then you are in need of raising your relationship quotient. You need more healthy relationships in your life.

Relationships Assessment

1. I spend at least 10 hours of focused time with my family each week.
2. I get together with friends at least once a week.
3. There is no one in my life that I haven't completely forgiven.
4. I am actively engaged in learning how to be a better spouse, parent and / or friend.
5. I actively look for ways to support and help advance the success of my friends and family.
6. I take complete responsibility for all relationship conflicts when they arise.
7. I easily trust those I live and work with.
8. I am 100% honest and open with all those I live and work with.
9. It is easy for me to commit to others and honor those commitments.
10. I recognize when I need support and am continually seeking help.